Parenting

I am just going to be open, honest and just raw in this post. So, if you read something you don't like...stop reading my blog because I am not here to sugar coat your life for you. Thanks!

Obviously I am the mother of 3 wonderful children. They are wonderful and perfect in my eyes and I don't care if you dont see them that way. Yes, my children fight. well, my boys do. my daughter isnt big enough for that yet, lol! i have a 5 year old son in kindergarten, a 3 year old son and a 3 1/2 month old daughter. I have been told MANY times that my children are smart and so well behaved! HA! i laugh at that. yes, my children CAN BE well behaved when we are out in public, but they are children. they are going to make mistakes and it is my job as their mother to help them learn the right thing (what I consider the right thing) to do. Now, i DO think my children are very smart. My son Brayden is doing SO WELL in school. Other parents have told me, his teachers and teachers aides all tell me that he retains every bit of information that they go over. I think that is WONDERFUL and i am so blessed that he is doing so well and enjoys going to school SO much. My 3 year old, was talking in full sentences before he was 2. to me, he had the advantage of having my oldest son as an example. Since Brayden has started school, Carson has gained ALOT of information because he sits at the table when it's homework time. Dont tell me that your 2 year old is as smart as my 5 year old. Sorry but i dont believe you. Here is my thing about parenting...being a parent is hard enough without having your "friend" put you down. But they do it in a way that makes it sound like they arent talking to you. Just because someone elses child isnt as smart as yours (so YOU think) doesnt mean that child has developmental delays. and just because a child has developmental delays doesnt mean that its their parents fault. that is so absurd! There are MANY reasons that children are developmentally slower than other children their age. They were born early or there were complications at their birth and sometimes it IS because the parents dont take the time to work with their children. HOWEVER, a child should not be forced to LEARN 24/7. now i understand that you can make learning fun, and that's how my husband and i have done it. 

I will specifically say that a friend of mine had twins that were 6 1/2 weeks early. To me, it is normal if they have delays of any kind. I have seen her work with them. You can't sit your children down 24/7 and make them learn things. When they are ready to do things, they will do them! The twins are very bright and KNOW a lot, they just don't talk alot. They'll talk when they are ready but in the meantime, momma just keeps encouraging them. That's all she can do at this point.

I guess here is my point, women in general are HARD on other women. BUT WHY? we all fought so hard to gain the rights that we now have and for what? to be able to tell another woman what her RIGHTS are? That is ridiculous. We need to rally together and support one another. I tell you something else, there is nothing worse you can do to a woman than criticize her as a mother. That just eats me up. My children are older than most of my friends kids. So pardon my if I dont take advice from someone who has never gone through the things that I am going through. If your daughter is one and my son is 5, you can't "help" me. Sorry. As a parent you gain knowledge from experience and I am about 4 or 5 years ahead of most of my friends. AND if you have a girl and I have a boy...it's not the same. Sorry, that is just something that irritates me to the core. I mean would parents rather their kids be smart and healthy or smart and overweight? we all want what is best for our children. and we ALL see what is best as something totally different. 

I am going to push my kids to do their best and if someone thinks that makes me mean, so be it. Like last night with my son. We were going over his word list and he kept forgetting the one word. Well I kept pushing him to sound it out and try to say it. That doesnt make me mean. I would be a failure as a parent if i just let him give up when i know he is SO smart. AND, i'm going to push my kids in sports. I LOVED being an athlete growing up and so did my husband. We want our children to have the same experiences that we had. Playing sports can help with self esteem issues, self confidence...it helps you make friends that you wouldnt otherwise have ever met. It's overall just a great thing. It may seem shallow as well to say this but playing sports and being active is part of living a healthy lifestyle. I am not going to fail my children where their health is concerned. The deserve for me to be a good mother. 

Lol, ok ok...i'll stop. I just wish women weren't so freakin hard on other women. It's hard enough as it is being a mother. Why tear another mother down? If it makes you feel good to do that, that is SO sad and i pity you. Women, mothers, sister, friends...lets rally behind one another and give each other the support we need and deserve!!!