Promoting my new business...

If you have little girls, I have the bows for you! I am just starting out so I do not have a lot to look at right now. Please log into your Facebook accounts and search "Maggie Shea Creations". I will do anything you need! Your daughter is on a cheer team? Great, I can make bows for the WHOLE team at a discounted rate. I will do custom orders. I am doing this all from my home while caring for my 2 smallest children and our dog. Lol. Please go to that page and hit "LIKE" and be sure to SHARE it on your page to spread the word. I will ship anywhere in the U.S. for FREE. Thanks so much you guys.


here are some of the bows I have created so far...

 Christmas

 summertime

 4th of July

 Happy Birthday

 Halloween

 4th of July

This one is just bigger than a quarter!

Patience

Patience...ahhhh, something i lack so much! Becoming a mother, i grew to be more patient with things. I can't just yell and fuss when something goes wrong. 

Having Brayden a month after turning 19 kind of opened my eyes a little. I don't really feel like everything was all about me, so it wasn't hard for me to make my son my number 1 priority. He is now in school and i have gained a little more patience because I sit down with him in the evenings to do homework. It's just frustrating when you know how smart your child is but he gets bored because he's gone over his words all day in school and that's the last thing he wants to do when he gets home. lol.

 Carson is STILL potty training. The boy is 3 and still pees in his pants! UGH! It's hard to deal with. But it's NOTHING new. My oldest would pee in the potty but would poop on himself. He did this until he was 3 1/2. Finally I got it through to him that none of his t-ball buddies wore pullups..lol. Yes, i guilted my son into being a big boy. Oh well, no harm done and it worked. Carson is the most stubborn little thing. He will poop in the potty and clean himself up with no problem, but he doesnt care if he has pee in his pullup. EW! Hopefully, with a little patience (lol) he will be fully potty trained before Summer!

Maggie. I have to have patience with her. She's only 3 1/2 months old. There are times when she's so tired that no one can soothe her, there are times where she only wants me, there are times when she only wants her daddy, and there are times that i dont think she even knows what she wants. I am starting to feed her baby food. Since she was about 1 1/2 months old, i've put a little oatmeal in her night time bottle. At this point, i am ALWAYS putting oatmeal into every bottle. I never did that with my boys. BUT, she is having a little trouble putting on some weight so I am going to keep doing it. Now i know that many people dont start their kids on baby food of any kind until 4 months old or later. Well great for you. lol. This child will eat an entire jar of pears...but boy does she not like anything else. Last night, we tried squash...but i dont blame her for not liking it. I dont either. lol. So, i must have patience. lol.

These are children though. They need you to have some patience with them because they do not know any better. It's adults that I have no patience with. I am so tired of being held to a different standard than other people. Why should you expect more from me than you do your other family members or friends? And just because you have patience with YOUR spouse and let them throw their little tantrums doesnt mean i'm going to do that. Grown people should act grown. DUH! lol. There are some ladies I know...well lets just say that i would never act that way. AND IF I DID, i would have my husband right there saying "Heather, you are wrong. Do not act like this" and I'm sure there are other times where he would tell me that im being stupid and so on. But you get my point. Now I'm not saying that a husband or boyfriend should "rule" or "boss" a female around but I am so THANKFUL that i have a husband that keeps me grounded and thinking rationally. Let me tell ya, if you pretty much let me know that you don't want me in your life...there are a couple of things that I would like from you:
1. tell me what in the hell i did wrong
2. make sure i am the one you are really upset with
3. if you cut me out of your life, dont expect me to be around when you decide that your little tantrum is over

I honestly just do NOT have the patience for adults (mostly women) that seem to think the world revolves around them. I live in this world. Earth. I live in America, where i can have whatever opinion I want about anything I want. I am just smart enough to know that there are times to say something and times to keep my mouth shut. I wish everyone else would learn that. 

I guess I must start having a little more patience all around. This is something that I know i need to work on. But instead of giving me a hard time when i say something, ask me questions about where i got my information or why i feel that way. I give LOTS of my friends advice on LOTS of different topics (because they ASK ME). I give advice on boyfriends, husbands, relationships, parenting, money, grocery planning... all sorts of things. My thing is, it's not the word of God just because it comes out of my mouth. God gave me a brain and the ability to form my own opinions. So, if you dont agree with me on things, great. You don't have to do things the way that I do them. But maybe you could have a little patience with me. 

I'm not expert on relationships or parenting, but i try to give good advice. My husband and I have had some pretty hard times...in every way. I think they only think we hadnt experienced together when we got married was death. AND we took care of that last year sadly, when my Papaw passed away. I'm not saying that we know everything, but we've got a pretty good hold of our lives and we know what the plans are for the next few years. There will be bumps, but the good thing is that we both have PATIENCE and know that good things come to those who wait. And buddy, we are waiting! LOL! 

This turned into more of a rant than anything else, but oh well. I just guess i need to have more patience with people. But people need to realize that they are responsible for their own actions and i have no patience when you act stupid. So while you throw your little tantrum and direct your anger at me (when i dont deserve it) yeah...i dont have patience for that. Basically just be accountable for yourself. I screw up all the time but God has enough patience with me to let me screw up, learn from my mistakes and grow into a better person. I pray we are all lucky enough to realize that...

That's enough for now...lol. Just have some patience...geez. LOL

Parenting

I am just going to be open, honest and just raw in this post. So, if you read something you don't like...stop reading my blog because I am not here to sugar coat your life for you. Thanks!

Obviously I am the mother of 3 wonderful children. They are wonderful and perfect in my eyes and I don't care if you dont see them that way. Yes, my children fight. well, my boys do. my daughter isnt big enough for that yet, lol! i have a 5 year old son in kindergarten, a 3 year old son and a 3 1/2 month old daughter. I have been told MANY times that my children are smart and so well behaved! HA! i laugh at that. yes, my children CAN BE well behaved when we are out in public, but they are children. they are going to make mistakes and it is my job as their mother to help them learn the right thing (what I consider the right thing) to do. Now, i DO think my children are very smart. My son Brayden is doing SO WELL in school. Other parents have told me, his teachers and teachers aides all tell me that he retains every bit of information that they go over. I think that is WONDERFUL and i am so blessed that he is doing so well and enjoys going to school SO much. My 3 year old, was talking in full sentences before he was 2. to me, he had the advantage of having my oldest son as an example. Since Brayden has started school, Carson has gained ALOT of information because he sits at the table when it's homework time. Dont tell me that your 2 year old is as smart as my 5 year old. Sorry but i dont believe you. Here is my thing about parenting...being a parent is hard enough without having your "friend" put you down. But they do it in a way that makes it sound like they arent talking to you. Just because someone elses child isnt as smart as yours (so YOU think) doesnt mean that child has developmental delays. and just because a child has developmental delays doesnt mean that its their parents fault. that is so absurd! There are MANY reasons that children are developmentally slower than other children their age. They were born early or there were complications at their birth and sometimes it IS because the parents dont take the time to work with their children. HOWEVER, a child should not be forced to LEARN 24/7. now i understand that you can make learning fun, and that's how my husband and i have done it. 

I will specifically say that a friend of mine had twins that were 6 1/2 weeks early. To me, it is normal if they have delays of any kind. I have seen her work with them. You can't sit your children down 24/7 and make them learn things. When they are ready to do things, they will do them! The twins are very bright and KNOW a lot, they just don't talk alot. They'll talk when they are ready but in the meantime, momma just keeps encouraging them. That's all she can do at this point.

I guess here is my point, women in general are HARD on other women. BUT WHY? we all fought so hard to gain the rights that we now have and for what? to be able to tell another woman what her RIGHTS are? That is ridiculous. We need to rally together and support one another. I tell you something else, there is nothing worse you can do to a woman than criticize her as a mother. That just eats me up. My children are older than most of my friends kids. So pardon my if I dont take advice from someone who has never gone through the things that I am going through. If your daughter is one and my son is 5, you can't "help" me. Sorry. As a parent you gain knowledge from experience and I am about 4 or 5 years ahead of most of my friends. AND if you have a girl and I have a boy...it's not the same. Sorry, that is just something that irritates me to the core. I mean would parents rather their kids be smart and healthy or smart and overweight? we all want what is best for our children. and we ALL see what is best as something totally different. 

I am going to push my kids to do their best and if someone thinks that makes me mean, so be it. Like last night with my son. We were going over his word list and he kept forgetting the one word. Well I kept pushing him to sound it out and try to say it. That doesnt make me mean. I would be a failure as a parent if i just let him give up when i know he is SO smart. AND, i'm going to push my kids in sports. I LOVED being an athlete growing up and so did my husband. We want our children to have the same experiences that we had. Playing sports can help with self esteem issues, self confidence...it helps you make friends that you wouldnt otherwise have ever met. It's overall just a great thing. It may seem shallow as well to say this but playing sports and being active is part of living a healthy lifestyle. I am not going to fail my children where their health is concerned. The deserve for me to be a good mother. 

Lol, ok ok...i'll stop. I just wish women weren't so freakin hard on other women. It's hard enough as it is being a mother. Why tear another mother down? If it makes you feel good to do that, that is SO sad and i pity you. Women, mothers, sister, friends...lets rally behind one another and give each other the support we need and deserve!!!